Whether we like it or not, there are times when we all lose our cool around our kids. Now and then we get annoyed, grumpy, frustrated, upset and exhausted from dealing with a raging child or what seems to be like an endless struggle.
While we know better how to respond in a calmly manner and not be inflicted by their emotions, we still fall into the trap sometimes in the heat of the moment. Some parents start yelling and some use the silent treatment. Neither ways are the solution.
How can you keep it together and be the calm and soothing parent you wish to be at all times?
Let’s take a closer look.
Take a step back
Whenever you find yourself losing your cool, whatever the reason, try to recognize and detect these emotions as quickly as possible. Be aware of the triggers that fuel your anger, then take a step back, pause yourself and calm down first.
Step outside of the situation for one minute. Now observe your situation from a distance. As if you are looking at yourself and your child from a distance and pay attention to what is going on. What are you noticing? What would you say to yourself standing there arguing with your child. What good and wise advise would you recommend?