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The Fruits of Proactivity

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How to be ProactiveSometimes when things get hard, when people get annoying and under your skin, it is easier to behave reactively. It’s an ugly demeanor. You use reactive language towards your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends and strangers.

It’s the moment you see or hear something that you don’t like but you aren’t willing to do something constructively about it (it seems as if you’re helpless). It’s a fixed mindset of “I can’t”, “I don’t”, “Yeah but”. You want others to solve the problem, because you feel you are not responsible for it.

You think it’s the only way out, but it often isn’t and it always gets backfired real quickly. Things always get worse from there.

Being reactive means others are running your agenda. You react to keep your head above the water but you have no control over what is happening. You feel overwhelmed and frustrated.

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Being proactive is the exact opposite of being reactive. You choose to take responsibility, you deal with things in a proper manner and work on finding a solution in the most effective and harmonious way.

You behave calmly and kind, and open yourself to be flexible and resourceful under stress. Your values (positivity, self control, happiness, effectiveness, love, creativity, you name it) are the things that determine your actions and you are not lead by your emotions, your mood, or the behaviour of others.

You are letting go of the reactive person inside of you and take a moment to pause, breath and give room to your spirit, your life force and a new frame of mind.

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How Meditation Can Set You Free

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how to be happy, meditation The first thing that happens when you wake up is the activation of your monkey mind. It’s “ON”! Your mind and thoughts are directly on analysis mode. You probably not even aware of this. You think you still need to wake up, but your mind isn’t.

It is already thinking what you want or what you don’t want. What you need to do a few seconds, minutes, hours or even a few days from now. If it is not thinking ahead, it’s thinking about yesterday or further down the past. You’re mind is scanning to see if everything is okay to your standards.

And this cycle repeats itself for the rest of the day whenever you’re not fully focused on some activity.

These thoughts are keeping your mind occupied whether you want it or not. It can make you feel happy or unhappy. And most of the time you are not AWARE. You are surrendered to your thoughts. Your mind is pulling you into any direction and state of emotion it feels like.

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How to Overcome Fear and Worry Once and For All

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We all have fears and worries: fear of failure, fear of rejection and embarrassment, worries about disease, getting old, not being safe, suffering, fear of death and the list goes on.

The fact is, with all these types of fear, it’s always about what you think may happen in the future and not about what is happening now. You are here in the present moment and your mind is wandering in the future, making statements and forecasts, creating scenarios and predictions. That is what is causing the fear. Your fear is just a projection of the mind.

The problem is that you identify with your mind and your thoughts (you think you are your thoughts), while you are actually not your mind and thoughts (you are the one observing your thoughts). And because thoughts are inherently unstable, you feel fear when you identify with them.

The more you think about the future, the more you give power to those thoughts and they start to control you. The trouble is that you can not compete with that mental projection into the future, because it’s not real, it’s imaginary and it’s always ahead. Your mind can’t distinguish real from imaginary and that causes you to feel anxious.

The only thing you can really compete with, and the only thing that is real is now, here, the present moment. And the more you live in the present moment, the more powerful and robust that present will be.
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The Productivity of an Unproductive Day

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The Productivity of an unproductive dayA lot of people feel like they always need to be productive. Kickstart their day, get things done, move forward and accomplish their goals fast and furious. But being productive is not always effective. In fact, being productive is not effective a lot of the times. Being busy does not necessarily mean that you are moving forward towards your goal in the best way.

When you’re feeling stuck and when you can’t decide what to do or how to do it, give yourself permission to let go, to be unproductive. Allow yourself to do one of the things in this post and you’ll end up being miraculously more productive instead.

What you first need is inspiration. Inspiration leads to greater and faster productivity. Inspiration is the first part of productivity, the doing is the second part. Make sure you got the first part right, before you start on the second.

I used to wake up early to start writing first thing in the morning. I would look at my computer screen and sometimes nothing would come out of it. I’ve seen mornings where I’d write three words down on paper and seen an hour go by. And sometimes I’d come up with an idea in the afternoon and I’d finish a complete blog post in an hour. That’s when you know inspiration is everything and leads to more effective productivity.

And it works not just for productivity. The same goes for, being stuck in life, when you don’t know what to decide. What should I be doing next? Do I need to go left or right? Should I quit or go ahead?

Just fuel your inspiration!

So whenever you feel unproductive, stuck or uninspired, go ahead, take it easy, let things go for a while, relax and try one of the following to get on top of your game:
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