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Most people lose their calm every once in a while. Emotions can be powerful and overwhelming. The great thing is that you can actually learn to control them and feel lighter and happier throughout the day, and throughout your life.

Here are 14 keys how to stay calm when you’re angry, annoyed or nervous, how to stay calm under pressure or in stressful situations, or just when things seem to fall apart and you’re on the edge of a breakdown. In other words, How to Stay Calm No Matter What.

Let’s take a look.

Take 8 Deep and Slow Breaths

Focus entirely on your breathing while you slowly breath in and out. Behold the transformation.

Take a Step Back

Take a moment to observe the situation as if you were looking from a distant. Don’t be the person or victim that’s caught up in the middle of the situation but look at it from a bystander’s perspective and see how your frame of reference will change.

Slow down, Pause and Delay your Response

Force yourself to not react or respond immediately. If possible wait one or two minutes or at the least 10 to 20 seconds. Watch your initial response fade away and realize it’s ill-advised, then think, contemplate with calmness, keep an open mind, and see how smart and effective your response after the pause will be.

Get out!

Get out of the house, the car, the building, wherever you are. Get outside. Your mind works differently in outside environments. Fresh air and nature has a profound impact on your system and makes you feel calmer and see things clearer almost immediately.

Repeat a Mantra

Repeat a peaceful mantra to yourself. Say quietly to yourself “I am calm, focused and at ease in every situation.” Visualize yourself being calm. Be kind to yourself.

Focus

Focus and act on things you can control, and stop focusing and worrying about things you can’t control.

When I feel stressed out, grumpy or lack energy I do one of two things, either I do some exercise in the form of running or jumprope, or I listen to a guided meditation on one of my apps. I immediately feel a totally different person afterwards.

Today there are many great apps offering (guided) meditations, mindfulness, and other ways to de-stress. Guided meditations allow you to just relax and listen to the gentle voices that will help you destress your mind and body, and empower you for the rest of the day.

There are also apps with mesmeric sounds that are great for coming into a calm and unwinding state. According to a new study, sounds can physically alter the connections in our brains, reducing our body’s natural fight-or-flight instinct. You can listen to these sounds while you’re doing a task, but the effects are most effective when you take a moment to sit or lie down and surrender to their healing vibrations. Try for yourself and experience.

Also mindfulness sessions are often added to apps to make you aware of your mind, body and actions throughout the day so you’ll stay centred, appreciative, receptive, focused and wiser while you’re dealing with the issues of daily life.

Most apps have a combination of these techniques so you can choose the ones you like most.

At this moment I’m using insight timer (for meditation and guided mediation), relax melodies (to unwind) and Sadhguru (to gain some words of wisdom), but the other apps are also definitely worth checking out. It all depends on your state of being, and what you need most in your life.

How To Stay Calm No Matter What