Could you recognize the moments when you are stuck inside of your own mind, feeling upset, angry, sad or misunderstood?
One moment everything’s fine and the next you’ve lost all control.
Here are a few you might notice:
A sudden argument with your partner or friend over something that you can’t let go of.
That grumpy, restless feeling when you’re stuck in traffic or getting held up at a crowded place.
The thought of things that happened in the past or still need to happen in the future.
The continuous worry about all the things that can go wrong, someday, ever, which already causes you to feel upset.
The latter is kind of a weird situation of you think of it. You already feel upset about something that hasn’t even happened yet. Your brain thinks otherwise. It accepts your thoughts for the truth and your body and emotions immediately react to it.
You are trapped inside of your own mind and torturing yourself with these destructive thoughts. Thoughts that are usually blown out of proportion. They won’t get you to a safer or better place which makes them quite useless and only do you harm.
They are really a waste of your precious time. So why don’t you think of happy thoughts instead?
Well, that’s because you are not aware of your thoughts.
Take notice and step outside
When these moments or thoughts occur you need to take notice and step back. You need to step outside of your own mind.
Know that you are not your thoughts. You are only the one who has these thoughts, is able to observe them and let them pass like a cloud if you need to.
Train yourself during the day to become aware of your own thoughts.
The challenging part is to do this when you’re dealing with a situation. In the midst of an argument, when someone is criticizing you or when things don’t work out the way you expected.
The is THE time where you need to train yourself to become free. Free yourself from the situation and everything around you.
Step outside of yourself, outside your thoughts, outside of the situation and become the observer.
Look at what’s going on from a distance. As if you were looking at the situation a few feet away. You and the person arguing are now two people you look at just down the street. You in the car and the traffic jam is just a setting you are watching from the sidewalk. You and that hypnotic TV is just something you are observing from the other chair.
Now that you’ve stepped out of it, you can let go of all the resentment, frustration and upsetness. Just observe.
Stop judging, worrying, arguing, winning and trying to be in control. Instead just let go, watch the behavior and smile, breath, be calm and know that you can step outside your mind anytime.
You don’t have to be the person who is losing it.
Just step outside, observe, let go and be free.
Feel free to leave a comment below. I appreciate it.
Siddharth bhati says
Great nice article . I’m in practice of doing this.