We all get impatient from time to time. We have to deal with circumstances that are out of our control. And that feeling of wanting to be in control causes our impatience.

We want things to go our way. We need it to be like this or otherwise we can’t do that. We need to be in time and get it done. Others need to listen, hurry up and act properly as we expect.

All those things would not even be an issue if we’d learn to slow down instead of speeding up. But let’s assume you haven’t learned this lesson yet and you want to learn how not to lose your patience. What can you do? How can you make life easier for yourself and your environment?

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The first thing that happens when you wake up in the morning is the activation of your monkey mind. It’s “ON”!

Your mind and thoughts are immediately in analysis mode. You are probably not even aware of this. You think you still need to wake up, but your mind isn’t.

It is already thinking what you want or what you don’t want. What you need to do a few seconds, minutes, hours or even a few days from now. If it is not thinking ahead, it’s thinking about yesterday or further down the past. You’re mind is scanning to see if everything is okay to your standards.

And this cycle repeats itself for the rest of the day whenever you’re not fully focused on some activity.

These thoughts are keeping your mind occupied whether you want it or not. It can make you feel happy or unhappy. And most of the time you are not AWARE. You are surrendered to your thoughts. Your mind is pulling you into any direction and state of emotion it feels like.

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We all have fears and worries: fear of failure, fear of rejection and embarrassment, worries about disease, getting old, not being safe, suffering, fear of death and the list goes on.

The fact is, with all these types of fear, it’s always about what you think may happen in the future and not about what is happening now. You are here in the present moment and your mind is wandering in the future, making statements and forecasts, creating scenarios and predictions. That is what is causing the fear. Your fear is just a projection of the mind.

The problem is that you identify with your mind and your thoughts (you think you are your thoughts), while you are actually not your mind and thoughts (you are the one observing your thoughts). And because thoughts are inherently unstable, you feel fear when you identify with them.

The more you think about the future, the more you give power to those thoughts and they start to control you. The trouble is that you can not compete with that mental projection into the future, because it’s not real, it’s imaginary and it’s always ahead. Your mind can’t distinguish real from imaginary and that causes you to feel anxious.

The only thing you can really compete with, and the only thing that is real is now, here, the present moment. And the more you live in the present moment, the more powerful and robust that present will be.
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